Wednesday, January 16, 2008

hurt and responsibilities...

why do we hurt? becos we do not get what we expect? why do the ones who love us most hurt us most? becos we expect the most from them? so, if someone hurts you, is it really their fault? maybe we shouldn't have expected so much from them...

but where is the line between expectation and responsibility? little Amy is hurting because her daddy doesn't have time for her. she expects her daddy to have time for her. is she expecting too much? isn't it her daddy's responsibility to spend time with her? so, it's her daddy's fault that she's hurting...

so, the expectation is dependent on the responsibility. if you have a certain responsibility then the expectation is that you fulfill that responsibility responsibly.

but can we live up to those responsibilities? i always argue that that is the difference between adults and children. children can get away with many things because they are immature and have to learn responsibility. children have to be taught and given responsibilities so that when they become adults they will be responsible. and adults have to be responsible for their actions that's why there are consequences to the things we do.

of course we still see adults who behave and live like immature children. they do and say things without weighing the consequences, and hurt people in the process...

so, as responsible mature adults, we have to sit down and consider our responsibilities. i tried doing this and realised that i have many. here are some examples. are you a...

son/daughter?
parent?
husband/wife?
in-law?
uncle/aunty?
nephew/niece?
cousin?
friend?
colleague?
neighbour?
employer/employee?
teacher/mentor?
student?
and the list goes on depending one how much you have going on in your life...

and for each of those relationships/positions we have responsibilities. are you fulfilling them?

No comments: